A lot of students ask me about the difference between talk to and talk with.
很多学生问我“talk to”和“talk with”的区别
There’s essentially NO difference when two people are having a conversation, and both of them are speaking. You can say “Sue is talking to John” or “Sue is talking with John” – they’re the same!
答案是，当两个人都在说话时，它们两个本质上没有区别。你可以说“Sue is talking to John”或者“Sue is talking with John”，它们都是一样的！
Some people claim that talk to should be used when it’s only one person speaking, and talk with should be used when it’s more of a two-sided discussion.
有些人认为当只有一个人在说话的时候应该用talk to，当双方都在讨论的时候应该用talk with。
However, in practice, many native speakers use both interchangeably.
Here are some examples.
Can I talk to you for a minute?
= Can I talk with you for a minute?
Brian’s over there, talking to Matt.
= Brian’s over there, talking with Matt.
I talked to my boss and she said I could take a day off.
= I talked with my boss and she said I could take a day off.
Let's look at more prepositions that can be used after the verb talk.
Talk About + (Topic/Person)
This is the most common way to express speaking about a topic. The topic can be serious or not so serious.
We talked about our favorite movies.
Everyone’s talking about the World Cup.
They always talk about me behind my back.
(behind my back = when I’m not present/listening)
discuss= talk about
✘ We discussed about the problem.
✔ We discussed the problem.
=We talked about the problem.
Talk Over / Talk Through + (Problem/Issue)
We use talk over and talk through to describe a more detailed, in-depth discussion, often when there’s a decision to be made, or a problem or conflict that needs to be resolved. Talk through can also be used for explanation of a process step by step.
我们用talk over和talk through来描述更详细、更深入的讨论，通常是需要做出决定、需要解决问题或冲突。Talk through也可以用于一步一步地解释一个过程。
I’m not about to buy a car on a whim. I need to talk it over with my wife first.
(on a whim = on impulse, spontaneously)
My business partner and I talked things over and came up with a plan.
(came up with = created/invented)
If you’re not happy in the relationship, you should talk it through with your boyfriend.
(= discuss a problem in depth)
The IT guy talked us through the installation of the new computer program.
(= explain a process)
Talk Someone Into / Talk Someone Out Of
+ Doing Something
To talk someone into doing something means to convince that person to do it. He/she didn’t want to do it, but you managed to change their mind.
To talk someone into doing something意思是说服某人做某事。他或者她不想做，但你设法改变了他们的主意。
I was hesitant to try ice skating, but Helen talked me into going.
Let’s see if we can talk Pete into giving us free food.
I can’t believe the salesman talked you into buying a $7,000 sound system.
The opposite is to talk someone out of doing something – meaning to convince the person NOT to do it:
它的反义形式是talk someone out of doing something——意思是说服某人不要做某事：
I was going to buy an iPhone, but Fred talked me out of it by telling me all the ways that Samsung phones are better.
He wants to get a giant tattoo, and his wife is trying to talk him out of it.
I’m glad my friend talked me out of quitting school when I was about to give up.